Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Free At Last!

Well, I finally broke down and joined the 21st century. I purchased a laptop. I know, I know.... a blogger without a laptop?! That's like Heidi M0ntag with no silicone, right? LOL! And yet... all these years, I've been locked in a room stuck in front of a giant, cumbersome, desktop computer as I surfed the net, played countless games of Bejeweled, liked or disliked status updates on Faceb00k, shopped for cute, crafty finds on Etsy, and blogged about all the important (and unimportant) factoids of my life.

But not anymore, baby. I've found my freedom! I can be anywhere in my house...ANYWHERE... and still be plugged in to the world wide web. In fact, I can be outside my house, too. Right at this very moment, I'm typing on my front porch while enjoying the gorgeous 75 degree-0 humidity summer evening. On.My.Front.Porch! Do you have any idea how happy that makes me?Okay... I realize this is old news to most of you who have enjoyed laptop ownership for years and years. But this is all new to me. I'm like a little baby just discovering the world for the very first time. And so far.... I freakin' LOVE it!!!!!

Friday, June 25, 2010

This Cracks Me Up

Saw this on Faceb00k. It was too damn funny not to share.
Happy Weekend!

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

Did The Earth Just Move?

It did! But unfortunately, not in the way that would put a big smile on my face. ;)

So here's the deal. I'm sitting at my desk this afternoon just typing away finishing some reports. When I suddenly feel like my chair is moving a little. Since that makes absolutely no sense I rationalize that since I skipped lunch I must be feeling lightheaded. That was until I took a sideways glance at my phone cord hanging off the side of the desk and realize it's swaying ever so slightly. Now I think I'm losing it .....so I yell out to the only other co-worker in the room at the time. I told him to sit perfectly still and tell me if he felt the building moving. He immediately noticed the water in his Aquafina bottle was rippling just a tiny little bit. We both were like WTF is going on?! It stopped after 30 seconds. Maybe a minute. Either way we just blew it off and thought we must be imagining it. You know... that whole power of suggestion thing.

Then I got home and saw the news. Apparently there was a 5.0 magnitude EARTH-freakin-QUAKE ..... in Canada!! And yet here in the middle of Ohio (okay...actually southwestern Ohio, not really the middle) I felt that sucker. Crazy!

Monday, June 21, 2010

Tatum's Ballet Recital

A couple hours of dress rehearsal in the morning and then several more hours of the actual recital in the evening is just too much when you have 4 other kids to attend to. So my sister usually asks my mom or me to take Tatum for the morning session.
I managed to get her all dressed. Then it was a lot of standing around waiting for her turn to perform. A LOT of standing around actually. I thought this pic was cute. Whatever I said cracked her up right as I snapped it.
These two were engrossed in a very serious conversation backstage. Probably about Hannah-M0ntana or pink sparkly lip gloss. Or some other very important topic for 7 yr olds.
Much to the teacher's dismay, every little girl was doing something different on stage. Which is pretty much how the whole performance ended up. LOL!
Along with losing her two front teeth, Tatum also added a tumbling/acrobat class this year. So she had a quick costume alteration and then went back on stage.
Tatum is on the right.
She worked up an appetite with all that dancing, twirling, cartwheeling, somersaulting and tumbling. So I treated her to lunch. Oh and a shake, of course. :)

Sunday, June 20, 2010

Happy Father's Day!

Ditto what my sister said ..... cuz I'm lazy like that. LOL! It's too much work to swipe her pics and re-post them here. But if you click over you'll see my brother-in-law with Tess, our brother with Braeden, and our dad with Tatum.
Hope all the Dads out there enjoy their day.

Thursday, June 17, 2010

Life Is Good Again

Got through the month of major suckage. The load has lightened quite a bit. Now I'm just having a hard time blogging because I'm super busy. But not cuz I'm totally stressed out. Finally! For this I am grateful.

And it's amazing how the month of June has become the total opposite of the month of May. My head and my heart are in such a better place. It's refreshing. And I'm actually feeling good again. Quite happy, in fact. It's fabulous the feeling a major attitude adjustment can bring out.

My brother is doing well and adjusting to his new marriage and new barber shop. My mother is getting settled in her new place. I'm enjoying spending time with the T's. We've had some "all by myself" sleepovers recently. You know, just one kid at a time. Which is a major treat for a sibling group of 5. It's been a treat for me, too. To have this opportunity to bond with them one on one. And I expect more sleepovers now that summer is here and school is out. I've been to baseball and tee ball games and watched Tatum as she rehearsed for her big annual dance recital. They always seem to have something going on.

I'm trying to take advantage and appreciate my freedom while it lasts. So I've been hanging out with my girlfriends more, too. Going to movies, out for dinner, or just sitting on the porch with a cocktail. I love these times and wish I wouldn't have been so foggy these last couple years to have cherished them more. But I'm making up for all that adoption haze and depression now. I'm having more fun than I've had in a long time.... and it feels wonderful!

I've been spending a lot of time in my outside spaces now that summer has arrived. The fresh air and beautiful sunshine have done wonders for my soul. I made a very wise decision this year and paid a landscaper to do the big spring overhaul. It was sooooo worth it. He got done in a few hours what would have taken me weeks. And it looks better than ever! Sadly, I lost an entire batch of flowers that were mistaken for weeds. Yeah... I didn't get it either. I mean, he's the professional after all. But it worked out in my favor. He replaced them with even better flowers and I'm loving the look of the beds so much more.

Sitting outside when your yard is pretty and you didn't have to do the work to get it like that is incredibly relaxing. Just for my sense of sanity that money was well spent. I think he'll be coming back every spring from now on.

On another topic, several years ago I drifted away from my since-7th grade-BFF. Not cuz of any one thing. No big falling out. Just time, obligations and other silly bullshit. But we've recently reconnected and patched things up. It was like not missing a beat. My BFF is back and I'm so incredibly happy! No one knows me like she does. We have so much history together. I've really missed her and didn't realize just how empty that space in my heart was after she left it. But it's full again. Overflowing, in fact.

BFF also has 3 kids that I helped raise. They were all born before we hit age 20. Far too young to be raising babies. So we grew up quite a bit ourselves in their early years. They've also returned to my life and I'm absolutely ecstatic over that! I tried to stay in touch with them in spite of the distance with their mom but it was difficult. So there were gaps of time when we just simply lost touch. It's like not missing a beat with them either. I've really missed my A's. Ashlee, Adryan and Alexis. She chose names like my sister did. LOL!

As we reconnect, I've realized how much they've grown up. They're all 3 in separate places now. So my recent contact with them has been individually. Which is so interesting. As kids they always came as a package deal. I never had the opportunity to get to know them on their own. And it's really amazing. I've always known them. But now I really know them. They're all fascinating in their own right. It's such a gift to be able to enjoy this time with them as they start to strike out on their own and make their way in the world.

I've also noticed the hard times they've struggled through has given them a greater appreciation for the people who have always unconditionally loved and supported them. Or maybe it's that they're more mature now. Or maybe it's the absence of me that has made them more aware. Or maybe it's just that we're getting to know each other all over again on a much deeper level. Whatever the case... it's like a huge love fest over here now. LOL! They're all 3 more affectionate, more open with their emotions, talking about their feelings.... and I'm loving every bit of it. These were my first babies and oh how I've missed them. :)

BFF has also added 2 younger children since she's been married. I didn't have the same relationship with them as with the first 3 just because of circumstance. But I'm welcoming the opportunity to add them into my circle and get to know them, too. Plus there are also now 4 grandchildren for BFF. All beautiful, smart, amazing little people.

Anyone who knows me understands how much my family means to me. Especially the children in my life. And it feels like my family is finally intact again. She was always like the fourth child to my mother. I had numbed the pain of that missing piece. I didn't realize just how much her absence had hurt me until I had her back. Had all of them back. That pain makes the happiness that much sweeter though. I can't wait to welcome my own daughter into this great big crazy group.

Speaking of that.... I'm also, for the first time since probably 2006, in a Really Good Place with the adoption. All the paperwork nonsense is done. I'll probably have to renew my immigration stuff one more time. But it'll be very simple. And more importantly... free! So it's all good.

But most of all, I'm starting to see a little light at the end of the tunnel. And it's so welcome cuz this tunnel has been very dark at times. Some of that numbness and detachment is starting to lift. Just a little. I suspect it will peel back like layers of an onion as each month passes and I get closer to referral. But I'm starting to believe again. Believe that this process really will end in a baby. And soon!

Well, "soon" is a relative term when you've waited over 4 yrs. I'm predicting a referral in Jan or Feb at this point. That's soon to me. Cuz anything less than a year is a piece of cake. But we'll have to wait and see. It could push out further. But for the first time in a very very very long time, I'm okay with my time line.

And I'm happy again. I'm sure I'll have my moments... but I really hope this feeling lasts. Cuz I like it! :)

Monday, June 14, 2010

Another Year Passes

It's been

4 Years
48 Months
208 Weeks
1462 Days
about 35,100 Hours
A Long Damn Time!
Since my dossier was logged in
But I'll keep waiting for my Mia until China calls.
And she'll be worth the wait.