Wednesday, June 13, 2007

Unexpected Friendship

As of tomorrow my dossier has been sitting on a shelf in China for exactly one year. I'm happy to have one year behind me. But when I started this journey, I thought I'd be seeing my daughter's face at about this time. Or at least within the next six months. Unfortunately, I'll be waiting at least another year for that. Most likely longer though. The reality of that has hit me kind of hard this week. I know you all may find it hard to believe that Miss Sunshiney Pants who always believes the glass is half full and nauseates people with her optimism is a little depressed. But she is. At least she was. But not after she found these sitting on her front porch! (Okay...enough talking about myself in the third person. That's getting annoying, isn't it? LOL!)

Connie is my go-to woman. When I need to vent, whine, complain, bitch, cry, be sad and depressed, she's the one I go to most often. I don't like to be that kind of person so I try to limit it as much as I can. But everybody needs somebody that you can be real with and somebody who just gets it. I've been lucky enough to find a few of those somebody's along the way.

After listening to the depressed me this week, she took it upon herself to cheer me up. She sent these beautiful flowers. They were just what the doctor ordered. Or in this case, what the midwife ordered. (Man I crack myself up.) A much needed kick in the butt to turn that frown upside down and get on with it. Thank you so much Connie! You really made my day. What you wrote on the card was so true. I just need to focus on that. Our dreams will come true. We just have to be patient.

When I started out on this journey, I was alone. I had the support of my family and a few close friends who I knew would help me raise this beautiful little baby. Because I believe it really does take a village to raise a child. But I still took the first steps alone. It was hard. And a little scary.

But then I started this blog. I never could've imagined the connections I would make because of it. The friendships that I've made that I know will last a lifetime. Some that I may never meet in real life but whose lives I've become emotionally invested in as we ride this rollercoaster together. And I know now that I'm not alone in this. My daughter will be raised alongside other little girls adopted from China. I never saw that one coming either. But I'm so grateful for it. There are so many amazing people out here in this same slow boat to China with me. You know what I'm feeling and you understand. I could not survive this wait without you. And for that...I am truly blessed.

15 comments:

Colleen said...

Connie is just the best. She always seems to know what/when and how! Loves her.

I agree with you totally on this blogger friendship thing. Really -I cannot for a second fathom making it thru these 19 months on the wait for Hannah - and now with Copper. The support is tremendous. Friendships for life, I just know it.

Janet said...

The flowers are lovely! How thoughtful of her. And I know what you mean about our "bloggy friends".

Isabella's Mommy & Daddy said...

I know where you are at.. I have my family beside me all the way.. But all the blogging friends are the BEST.. we all are women and we all understand each other and how we are feeling.. I have just started commenting and getting to know people and there are a few that are always helping me out... I thank you all.. this is a very difficult time for all of us.. but we are all in it together.. keep your chin up.. I am with you all the way.
Kim

Jill and Jaap said...

Like I said on anotherblog, there is a bond and commadrie(sp?) with bloggy friends that is just different...
So great of Connie!

Melissa said...

oh sooooo true Krista!
What would we all do without our blog friendships??
I often wonder how waiting families do it without a blog?
You guys are my life raft.
and Connie...there are no words...she is the very best!!!
Now get your butts down here already!!!!!! Is it July yet????
:0)

C.J. said...

You're welcome! I wanted to put some 'sunshiney' back in your pants. (Okay, that sounds a little perv...you know what I mean)

You are my first evah bloggy buddy and I gotta say I'm glad about that.

You're right. It's great to have that person you can beyatch too or cry with and it's all okay....just because it is.

Just think, someday the snotty noses we are wiping won't be our own ;0)

Hugs.

Lisa and Doug said...

Connie is so wonderful! I am glad the flowers cheered you up. This wait is more than tough, and I know I have had my share of very depressed days. It is ok to feel bad - the wait really stinks. Try to hang in there if you can!

J said...

You know I'm still following along, waiting with you (in lurkdom).

M3 said...

Cheering for you over here in salsaland! Bloggy friendships are THE BEST, and we would never have survived the wait without the caring, wonderful folks we met along the way. Connie is awesome, isn't she?! (And those flowers rock!) So glad you've got a huge support group too.

Doris & Dan said...

And we are blessed to know you. Never imagined and now can't imagine life without it.

Miss C is the bomb! And you are pretty sparky too!

Keep smilin!

Julie said...

She is one thoughtful and cool chick that Connie. Hope I can meet her and you someday.

I too feel extremely blessed by the friendships that have resulted from this whole adoption experience.

Headmeister said...

Connie rocks!!! I know what you mean about needing people who can listen in those times when you just need to vent, those who understand what you mean, how you feel. I'm actually in the midst of trying to find a person like that - so you're one lucky chica to already have that in such a great gal like Connie!

Mommy-To-Channing said...

I know exactly what you mean about our "bloggy friends"....sadly the closer to China you get the more you are away from the computer.....eeks!!!

Joannah said...

Connie is a wonderful friend! Lucky you!

Congratulations on the one year mark. I hope the wait won't be too much longer...

eggrolls and chopsticks said...

Connie is a sweetheart and you are too. Thanks so much for having us along for the ride. I really, really love your blog, you write so beautifully.